4 One One

Several years ago, I began meeting with my son Hayden and another young man to go through the Harris' brother's book, Do Hard Things. I used this time to challenge these young men in their faith and their growth and knowledge of the gospel. Over time, others began to join in the discussion and the topics began to deepen and mature as well.
In January of this year, we expanded to include several more young men and a few of their dads as we gathered in our kitchen twice a month. I also invited several guest speakers. These were more-seasoned men and they were invited to share their lives and experience with a table full of young men. These have been great nights, with topics ranging all over the map from evangelism to ministry to marriage...great information from great men!
As the school year began this year, we added a few more changes: First, we chose a new name. We always called ourselves the "Do Hard Things Group," but thought that was a mouthful. So, we now call our group 4OneOne. This comes from a passage in 1Timothy 4:11, where Paul(an older man) instructs Timothy (a younger man) to "command and teach these things." Essentially, that is what I had been doing with these young men for the past few years. 4OneOne is also a place for the giving of Godly information: "Do you have questions? God has answers!"
We also moved to a more central location in town, allowing more young men to take part in the discussions. We meet in Modesto near highway 99 and our current group stretches from Sacramento to Oakdale to Turlock.
Lastly, I have been incorporating more or my peers to take part in the instruction of these young guys. My current favorite is "Howie's Minutes" where a good friend of mine takes a few minutes to encourage these young men in the habits of gentlemen. Holding doors open for women, choosing wise words with mothers/sisters are just a few of the recent discussions he has led.
To help with the discussions, we have chosen to use books that cover the topics. Over the past few years we have read through:
"Do Hard Things" by Brett and Alex Harris
"Not Even a Hint" by Josh Harris
"The Measure of a Man" by Gene Getz
"Courage to Flee" by Jeff Klick
and now a look at 1Timothy Chapter 4.

If you or someone you know is interested in being a part of 4OneOne, you can have them email me at the address on the right sidebar.

Quietly making noise,
Fletch

Charles Spurgeon: On the role of parents

This is Charles Spurgeon's morning devotional for July 11th and one of my favorites.  I remember the first time I read it after buying an old copy of his devotionals at a used bookstore in Auckland, NZ.  I was thumbing through the book (and enjoying the old book smell...) when this passage from the book of Joel caught my eye.  In light of the typical neo-evangelical church, I sat astonished as I read what he wrote.  It is a devotional written by the "Prince of Preachers" and the leader of a true mega-church.  But, one hundred and fifty years ago, they didn't pour money into youth programs, sunday school curriculum and Awana clubs. 

Guess what they did? 

They relied on parents to teach their children...go figure...parents...huh?  What a concept?

C.H. Spurgeon's Morning Devotional for July 11th
"Tell ye your children of it, and let your children tell their children, and their children another generation." --Joel 1:3


In this simple way, by God's grace, a living testimony for truth is always to be kept alive in the land--the beloved of the Lord are to hand down their witness for the gospel, and the covenant to their heirs, and these again to their next descendants. This is our first duty, we are to begin at the family hearth: he is a bad preacher who does not commence his ministry at home. The heathen are to be sought by all means, and the highways and hedges are to be searched, but home has a prior claim, and woe unto those who reverse the order of the Lord's arrangements. To teach our children is a personal duty; we cannot delegate it to Sunday School Teachers, or other friendly aids, these can assist us, but cannot deliver us from the sacred obligation; proxies and sponsors are wicked devices in this case: mothers and fathers must, like Abraham, command their households in the fear of God, and talk with their offspring concerning the wondrous works of the Most High. Parental teaching is a natural duty--who so fit to look to the child's well-being as those who are the authors of his actual being? To neglect the instruction of our offspring is worse than brutish. Family religion is necessary for the nation, for the family itself, and for the church of God. By a thousand plots Popery is covertly advancing in our land, and one of the most effectual means for resisting its inroads is left almost neglected, namely, the instruction of children in the faith. Would that parents would awaken to a sense of the importance of this matter. It is a pleasant duty to talk of Jesus to our sons and daughters, and the more so because it has often proved to be an accepted work, for God has saved the children through the parents' prayers and admonitions. May every house into which this volume shall come honour the Lord and receive His smile.


Quietly making noise,
Fletch