One Dad's Perspective

I have spent a lot of space on this blog discussing some of the more humerous thoughts that cross my mind, but occasionally I want to offer comment and discussion on a few topics that matter to me like church and homeschooling.

For details on how we school, why we school, curriculum, etc...it would be easy to link you to my wife's website and blog.  In fact, she plans and administers most of our schooling, but this would play directly into the typical stereotypes that moms do the school and dads look up from the sport's section and nod in agreement.
Those stereotypes are not far from the truth in the general homeschooling community.  Even during my previous blog on homeschoolblogger.com, a majority of the blogging was done from the mom's perspective.  Dads often serve solely as the checkbook "gate-keeper" when it comes time to purchase new curriculum (and they are grumpy gate-keepers at that!).

Believe me, I'm the first to recognize that when it comes to dads and homeschooling there is an issue of time, ability and practicality.  I am also the first to acknowledge that without my wife we'd have no schooling taking place in our home (except for maybe schoolhouse rock videos: Conjunction Junction, etc...).  Like most men, I have little time in my life to pour over our options for latin and Algebra this year.  In the overall economy of time in our family, my wife has taken on this responsibility.  But that does not give me the freedom to ignore this responsibility.  I need to recognize what comes along with the role I've asked her to fulfill.  She will need to attend a curriculum fair and she may need extra time to evaluate material...and she may actually want me to join her at a convention seminar.  Likewise, I cannot hide behind the excuse of a busy schedule and merely give an approving nod to my wife without helping her to determine what will work best for each kid this year.  And most importantly, it does not give me the freedom to neglect the needs of an often weary wife who may need an hour or so in the "teacher lounge" to veg out or a weekend of recharging (and tropical drinks!).

I have not arrived, but I'm getting better at this point.  What started as an experiment with our oldest son has turned into a lifestyle of constant education, excitement, fun and character development.  so far, god has provided us with six students.  Each year I have become a little more involved with the philosophy and design of our homeschool.  Somedays I still serve as the lousy substitute that spends all day playing games with the students.  Somedays my only responsibility is as janitor. Somedays I take yard-duty. Somedays I run the cafeteria or the study hall. And somedays I merely monitor the detention hall. But, with each year, I am trying harder and harder to be more consistently involved in our schooling, to be more mindful of a wife before she burns out, and to be a dad that is neither tardy or absent from his family's homeschool.

Quietly making noise,
Fletch